I'm not good with giving titles to my posts.
To put it more precisely, I'm not good with defining or categorizing things, relationships or people. At all.
I refer to everyone as a 'friend' regardless of the proximity of the bond.
I don't get it. I really don't. Why do we need to ascertain or give a name to every relationship we have with people? I mean, why can't we just let it be? Is specification that necessary?
Suppose I'm very good friends with this guy, let's call him Mr X, for now, shall we? So, I'm very good friends with him, no scratch that, I'm more than friends with him.
Now, don't stare at me like that, with eyes prodding to know 'why' I think he's more than a friend.. and nudging for an explanation. To be frank. I cannot comprehend myself too. But, I'm guessing, I'd stick with the age old cliche of 'you just know'.
You just know he's more than a friend when he's there. 2 am or 6.45 am.
When he hangs on to every word you say, even though it makes no sense. You just know..
So, what is this? Half of you reading this, will think I'm in love with him or maybe he is. But why? Why do we have to name it 'something? Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating shrouding a potential mutual affiliation of feelings encompassed with love into something as meaningless as 'best friends'. That is another thing i don't get. If you are with someone, why hide it? There's a reason you're with that person. Let the world know the reason too. I can write an entire blogpost on this subject. But, let's save it for some other time, shall we?
Anyway, So all I am saying is why can't it just be unnamed and have a ring of mystery to it? And, not just relationships. Just about anything.
Like why does that guy who delivers pizza to my place, whenever I order, has to be branded as 'the pizza delivery guy?' Why can't he be just.. a guy. A guy I would like to have a conversation with , or maybe go out with. And, why does the old lady selling flowers near Marine Drive have to be the 'poor' old lady? Just why. Why can't she be just another random pedestrian?
Are we really that scared to use or imagination or have we come to the conclusion, that we can't imagine at all?
Why can't we be vague and not narrow down the possibilities?
It's kind of sexy, yknow.
So, till you think about it and get back to me with an answer, I'll shall be busy wishing that my hair magically ends up looking like this. Just maybe.
And, thankyou, to *you*. I think my blog and me owe this to you @Paanipuri_Lover. I hope you get what I'm talking about. That's all that matters.
Much love,
To put it more precisely, I'm not good with defining or categorizing things, relationships or people. At all.
I refer to everyone as a 'friend' regardless of the proximity of the bond.
I don't get it. I really don't. Why do we need to ascertain or give a name to every relationship we have with people? I mean, why can't we just let it be? Is specification that necessary?
Suppose I'm very good friends with this guy, let's call him Mr X, for now, shall we? So, I'm very good friends with him, no scratch that, I'm more than friends with him.
Now, don't stare at me like that, with eyes prodding to know 'why' I think he's more than a friend.. and nudging for an explanation. To be frank. I cannot comprehend myself too. But, I'm guessing, I'd stick with the age old cliche of 'you just know'.
You just know he's more than a friend when he's there. 2 am or 6.45 am.
When he hangs on to every word you say, even though it makes no sense. You just know..
So, what is this? Half of you reading this, will think I'm in love with him or maybe he is. But why? Why do we have to name it 'something? Don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating shrouding a potential mutual affiliation of feelings encompassed with love into something as meaningless as 'best friends'. That is another thing i don't get. If you are with someone, why hide it? There's a reason you're with that person. Let the world know the reason too. I can write an entire blogpost on this subject. But, let's save it for some other time, shall we?
Anyway, So all I am saying is why can't it just be unnamed and have a ring of mystery to it? And, not just relationships. Just about anything.
Like why does that guy who delivers pizza to my place, whenever I order, has to be branded as 'the pizza delivery guy?' Why can't he be just.. a guy. A guy I would like to have a conversation with , or maybe go out with. And, why does the old lady selling flowers near Marine Drive have to be the 'poor' old lady? Just why. Why can't she be just another random pedestrian?
Are we really that scared to use or imagination or have we come to the conclusion, that we can't imagine at all?
Why can't we be vague and not narrow down the possibilities?
So, till you think about it and get back to me with an answer, I'll shall be busy wishing that my hair magically ends up looking like this. Just maybe.
Much love,
Till next time,
13 comments:
I think I know what you mean.
I would rather not narrow down the possibilities.
Its definitely sexier the way it is.
yeah na? Thank you for reading :)
clarity. its an impulse to try and explain everything. to try and know things so that we can control them.
bloody control freaks the whole lot of us :P
SO true....I mean why do we need to term emotions and segregate them? Weird...Also why we care so much bout people who don't and so less bout people who do? Stupid yes, but I guess Human nevertheless...
Polo! :*
I totally get it. This is the first time I'm commenting here, but you know I *heart* your blog.
And not just that. I can see myself in you at times. And you don't even know but you've helped me out, many times! :D
Much love and hugs.
Well I think you can totally keep a relationship unnamed. There's a certain beauty to that itself.
I believe people always prod into things and define relationships to give it more clarity. To maybe prove it to themselves and gain a sense of comfort. Or to prove to the world and hold their image from being tarnished. They live in a constant fear of what the society thinks.
But Polo, its all about our conscience and comfort. Right? So when people get that.. To be in a relationship, just that, no names .. they'll accept it :) ..
Until then, we're cool and chilled out. That's what matters! Hi-5 :D
P.s. thank you for visiting my blog after such a looooooooooonnnnngggg time :D.. I'm stilled miffed about the twitter thing if you understand :P
Raj ; yeah, that's there too.
Debajyoti : That's just human nature, i guess. I mean even if we go on complaining about them, we'll still end up doing all those same things only. :|
Paanipuri Lover : First, Your handle makes me crave Paanipuri all the time. :| :P
And, i know. :*
Confused Soul : Yeah, guess you're right. Maybe we're too afraid of the hazy. And, the society ofcourse.
Whaaat twitter thing? :O
P.S- Mail karo.
i feel a relationship is best left undefined..
btw a very nice post loved it..
"What's in a name?"
I've always HATED names of any kind! So,I could really relate to your post. Write a little more frequently,will ya?;-)
Aditi : Thankyou :)
Soumi : Yessir. Will be verrregular. :)
Agreed.
But the reason why I don't label things is because the moment I do, something goes wrong. Like, I call someone a friend and then the next day I find out that the person hates me. :S
Tell me about it, Meghana. It sucks.
Mysteriousness is hot. It is exciting, and that's why we love it. You're right some relationships don't need to be defined. We don't need a reason to love our parents and yet we do. So why waste moments on thinking when it could be spent someplace else. And good. ;)
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Keep Writing.
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